Official Asshole

27. December 2010 by admin.

It’s official, my brother is an asshole.  Now mind you, this was not something he achieved at birth, in fact he was taught better.  No, this is something he learned by marriage and has been causing harm with ever since.

So, here’s the scenario: he and his wife are at a cousin’s house in southern Wisconsin for Christmas.  They see my Dad and his wife as well as several cousins from his side of the family there.  On the way back to Minnesota, they drive up I-95.  My Mom is at her sister’s house, also in southern Wisconsin, where she celebrated Christmas with my cousin and his family as well as my Aunt and Uncle.  My Aunt and Uncle live seven minutes from an exit off I-95.  My brother and his wife do not bother to take a whole seven minutes out of their way to visit my Mom, whom they haven’t seen since the spring.  My Mom made sure they knew where she would be and what the travel distance would be.  They did not stop.

And then there is the selfishness.  My brother used to be a reasonably unselfish person but now it seems it is more important to buy things for himself and his wife than for others.  My brother makes a good buck.  True, his wife hasn’t had a real job in years, mainly because she alienated people (go figure!) which makes it difficult to get a job in a smaller town.  But he still has enough to keep her in the style to which she has become accustomed.  The total spent on gifts for me and my partner for Christmas is roughly $100 (and that’s rounding up) while we spent more than $150 on him alone.  So why the cheapness?  Has he hit a tough spot?  But I just can’t see this behavior from him, it has to be something else.

Ok, so I still believe that he is a nice guy underneath it all.  I just wish that he wouldn’t let anyone else dictate his actions to him.  He used to love his cousins and all the aunts and uncles, we had a great extended family, and now it appears that he is too good for them.  Interesting.  Well, there’s a reason karma comes back on people who hate and plot.  I know she will get hers and he will discover that he lost something that has more value than he could ever imagine.

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